Finally . .. Get to sit down and write. Ahhh....my teenagers are upstairs doing homework and my precious, adorable 9 year old daughter is reading over my shoulder. She said, "Mom, do you just have to blog about food?? Can't you talk about your amazing family? You can talk about how pretty and awesome I am and how I just got grounded from watching a show.". Well, Grace, sure . .. I can talk about that too! You all know my eating blog is still coming. Nobody will get off the hook that easy. But, after just enjoying my Dark Chocolate (organic and no soy :) ), maybe I best keep my mouth shut . . .or you all know the truth which is Dark Chocolate is my vice. In the midst of this insane, incredibly healthy, strict eating, chocolate is my thing.
Back to my people . .. for those of you who do not know her, my daughter is confident. Boy do I envy that girl. She has the most sensitive and caring heart while not remotely caring what other people think of her. If we can figure out a way to keep her on this path, we will have succeeded. I'll get back to you during the middle school years. What I found really interesting was that she wanted me to share about her getting grounded. Sure, there were tears when it happened but she has moved on. If you cannot get your work done in our house, you lose privileges. No need to get our panties in a twist . .. you know the rule, you broke it so you suffer the consequences. Off to drawing and reading she goes. For me, this shows that confident side. She is willing to share the good, the bad and the ugly. Isn't that how we all want to be and aren't those the kinds of friends we want? Sister, I love that authentic and genuine person you are! Now I should probably take a quick break to make sure she is not sneaking one of those shows!
Not sure my boys would be quite as excited for me to talk about them! The past couple of weeks have been a little stressful in our house. High school golf team tryouts. . . oh my! Both boys started the tryouts and 1 made the team . . .after 11 straight days not including the weekends. So, the mom that is supposed to be keeping as low a stress level as possible...FAIL! Why in the world do we get so stressed out about these things? Of course I adore my babies and do not want them to miss out on the things in life that they really want and I hate to see them sad. But, it does built character .. .supposedly! For my son who came to the course ready to play every one of those days, we really got to see an incredible progression. He became calmer and more focused. Of course, he was nervous and really anxious but he channeled that into focus. As much as I hated how much the whole process dragged on, I do think a lot of good came out of it for him.
For me, I get an F with how I handled it. Well, maybe not an F but I certainly do not deserve a pat on the back. I get to the point where I rationally know everything is out of my control and that I just need chill out. But, emotionally . .. that is an entirely different story! How do you keep those emotions in check when it comes to your kiddos? There is that fine line of helping them grow and helping them grow from failing. I am a firm believer that we need to help our kids learn to fail...so that brings me to the trophies...Seriously . .. trophies for participation? What in the world are we doing with this? What are we possibly teaching our children? Then we could throw in the sports games not keeping score. Are you serious? Like our middle schoolers do not know how to count. And if they don't we have bigger issues. What have we taught our kids when they don't get the opportunity to learn how to lose, to fail, to not get what they want. You know those trophies? The 100's of dollars we have spent on the participation trophies . . .they are boxed up. My boys could care less about them. What they care about are the trophies that they EARNED. Those are on the shelf in their room. Don't we feel the same way as adults? We are proud and excited about those things we earned. Think about that first paycheck . . . you know how excited you were. You worked, you got paid and it felt good! Why do we rob our children of these experiences just because we don't want them to feel bad. I am thankful that we learned some of this early on. It has made the teenage years so enjoyable. The issues just get bigger and the consequences get more painful so fail young!
Anyway . . .rather random blog tonight! Do we all just care so much about our precious little people that we can't control our emotions when it concerns them? Or am I weird like that? Part of me wishes I could just enjoy the ride . .. good or bad. Then part of me feels like being invested in them is good. It is so hard to know the perfect behavior! I guess that is the journey . . .some days it works and some days it doesn't. Either way, we learn and grow and our kids do too. I am so thankful for the direction God has taken each of our kids. They are people I really enjoy. I love that my boys will come curl up with me in the evenings before bed and chat with me about their lives. It may get late and I know we all have to be up early but those are precious moments. I respect their thoughts and opinions. It is really incredible to me to get to the point where I want their advice in certain situations because they have great thoughts that I really respect. My heart is going to break when they leave for college though I will be so happy for what they have done to EARN that opportunity. Rational vs emotional. I don't know about you but do you ever feel like you have multiple personalities with the rational/emotional battle? Good grief!
OK . time to hang out with my middle guy....the handsome golf team member! Time to talk about the fun classes he is going to add to his schedule next year. Work hard and EARN the fun class! What a journey. I guess this is all part of my journey to wellness....my people are a huge part of it. They keep me grounded and crazy all at the same time. I would love to hear how you deal with the rational vs emotional struggle! I am sure many of us can relate. Thank you for letting me ramble. I know Grace was excited to pick my blog topic. Whatever the topic, I am grateful for each one of you on this Journey to Wellness. Enjoy your week!
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